The Flame and the Fat Girl

As most of you know, the mobile app Tinder is somewhat of a phenomena within the millennial generation (excuse me while I puke in using that term). For those of you who don’t know, Tinder is labeled as a “dating” app. If you’re a Tinder user, you know for a fact that the last thing that…

Follow Up

For those of you that don’t know, I do spoken word poetry. (slam poetry) I haven’t gotten to write in a hot minute and now I’m back at it. You don’t have to like it, but it’s who I am. I hope you do though. 💖 this piece is called “Follow Up.” It’s about the…

Go With the Glow

  So, I have some beautiful, encouraging friends who actually think that the clothes that I throw on in the morning/the makeup I throw on in the morning are something worth talking about; in other words, this is a fashion sector of my otherwise really deep, hardcore blog. First and foremost: WELCOME BACK, SPRIIIIING!  Spring…

Hallelujah, by and bye.

Syd loved Christian music. She also loved the Backstreet Boys, but that’s a different story. I got the pleasure, the blessing to have her in my life for the past 4 years. I don’t know how to write this, if we’re being honest. I don’t know how to say goodbye to one of the best…

A Guide to Being Extra

 If you’re wondering “extra.. what, Tessa?” then you’re probably in a good place in your life and not like the rest of us, who live in memeland- but stay with me here.    The Urban Dictionary definition of “Extra” has many different forms, some of which are the following: “over the top; excessive, dramatic behavior;…

When We Wilt

I have a heavy heart today. I started my day as I normally do, woke up, got ready for work, drove to work.. And I got on Facebook. On the right side of the screen, there are trending news stories. Some are fake, and I wish what I saw today was. “Cedarwood, Georgia,” it read….

Holy Hands

So, I’m in the Dillard’s dressing room trying on, well, dresses. I have a rehearsal dinner next weekend and I’m trying to keep up with the other perfectly beautiful bridesmaids, who look equivalent to the Snapchat filter with the flower crown-aka flawless. As a plus size woman, finding clothing is sometimes a chore instead of…

Another Notch in This Bedpost

This title is scandalous – I get it. But it’s really just about 2016’s passing, so please take a breath and quit typing the lecture. 🙂 So, we’ve come to the end of 2016- many will find this a relief, some will see it as an opportunity for improvement, and some are still lamenting the…

Dating Like Parking

When I get to the mall, I always drive around in the parking lot for at least 15 minutes looking for that perfect spot. What do I deem as the perfect parking space? Well, as close to the door as I can get a spot I can see from the door of the store so…

Hallelujah

We use the word “hallelujah” so sparingly. When we get an unexpected day off from work, hallelujah. If you’re Madea, hallelujerrrr. When we don’t get pulled over, even though we’re DEFINITELY going at least 10 miles over the speed limit, hallelujah.  When we agree with something that someone says, hallelujah. When our preferred presidential candidate…