A Guide to Being Extra

 If you’re wondering “extra.. what, Tessa?” then you’re probably in a good place in your life and not like the rest of us, who live in memeland- but stay with me here. 


The Urban Dictionary definition of “Extra” has many different forms, some of which are the following:

  • “over the top; excessive, dramatic behavior; way too much”
  • “An unimportant person that takes up space in the script of life.” (This one makes me mad, tbh.)
  • “When something is just… so… extra…”
  • “to behave in a way on occasion or consistently in a way that is deemed unnecessary or inappropriate.”

My friend Alyx and I are consistently calling each other “extra” because we seem to be that way. Our friendship has always consisted of over the top outfits, amazing makeup, shopping until we drop, and a lot of trips to the VFW Post here in Amarillo. If this is what people consider EXTRA, I’m all about it.


(shameless plug of our perfect friendship)

Looking back on my life, before “extra” was something that people called each other, I was already being told that I was too much. I was too loud, too out there, too conversational, too opinionated, wore/ wear too much makeup, too weird with my fashion choices.. I have been extra my whole damn life. So, here’s a seasoned veteran of the term’s guide to EXTRA.


  1. First order of business in being EXTRA, expect your significant other to treat you with the utmost respect. Also treat them the same way.
  2. Wear as much makeup as you want.Blue lipstick? Do it. Pink eyeshadow? Go for it. No makeup because you’re okay with looking like you do? Cool. Whatever colors, whatever style.. whatever. It’s your face, who gives a shit what anyone else thinks?
  3. Wear some really weird outfits, preferably with patterns that don’t mix normally, but your je ne sais quoi makes it seem perfectly alright. Make people incredibly uncomfortable because they can’t seem to have enough confidence to pull it off; therefore, having them ridicule you and paste their insecurities alllll over you.
  4. Voice your opinion, be in unpopular or not. Make sure that you have no qualms in doing so, because this is America and we have the blessed beauty of free speech. (Learn the First Amendment verbatim)
  5. Always challenge your own opinions and others opinions. A little cognitive dissonance may make you, or others, uncomfortable; however, it is crucial to true understanding of your opinions.
  6. Talk to people you don’t know and compliment them on something about them. This may feel uncomfortable at first, but you’ll soon learn that their happiness is sometimes more important than yours. 
  7. Don’t be afraid to tell someone that they are wrong. Use Google to find valid, academic sources for your arguments. Admit when you’re wrong.
  8. Understand that you are allowed to be “EXTRA.” You are allowed to take up space, to be the person you are, and be proud of that.
  9. Love people regardless of the things they say about you. Be EXTRA compassionate.
  10. Be as damn EXTRA as you want, because you are allowed to be whoever the hell you want to be.



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